Relationships are arguably one of the trickiest things we can learn about. They need proper maintenance, sacrifice, and many other things that no one teaches us. That’s why learning about relationships is crucial if you want to end up being in a healthy one. This easy-to-follow article (By Cirillas Adult Toy Store) will give you the best relationship tips if you’re a gal, so read on and become an expert on the topic!
Know Your Worth
Don’t let low self-esteem ruin your relationship and turn you into a toxic partner. Regardless of your dating history, size, or appearance, you must know your worth and don’t let anyone tell you what or who you are. Being fulfilled and loving yourself is doing 50% of the work required for a relationship to prosper. Don’t compare yourself to others, don’t evaluate yourself based on other people’s achievements; rather, focus on improving yourself and comparing yourself to the version of you of yesterday.
Don’t Have Ridiculous Expectations
If Hollywood has taught us something, healthy relationships don’t have arguments, conflicts, setbacks, etc. In reality, a healthy relationship can’t last at all without healthy conflicts, disagreements, and such, which is why you shouldn’t expect your relationship to not have any. You need to remember that relationships require a lot of work, effort, time, and, most importantly, personal investment. A perfect person doesn’t exist; you create one by adapting yourself and allowing both yourself and your partner to grow.
Be as honest as you can
‘Honesty is such a lovely word,’ as Billy Joel said. But honesty is also one of the most important aspects of every healthy relationship. You mustn’t pretend you’re something you’re not, and you must be as authentic as possible. You don’t want your partner to find out things about you a year into the relationship, which will only cause chaos. Tell them all about yourself during the first couple of dates, and don’t be shy to tell them about your dirty secrets. This will build a solid foundation, and your partner will trust you more than anyone.
Don’t Settle for Anyone
Many women enter a relationship simply because they’re afraid to be alone. Being in a relationship because of this reason is far worse than being alone. Settling for someone, for this reason, means that you’ll overlook their bad baits, and you’ll soon find yourself in the most toxic relationship you can imagine. Know what you’re looking for in a partner, have a clear picture of what sort of a relationship you want, and you’ll be on a good way to finding a healthy relationship sooner or later.
I can’t stress this enough. If you don’t communicate openly with your partner, you can say goodbye to your dream of being in a healthy relationship. Whether you’re afraid of admitting things due to the fear of rejection or fear of being scolded, you’re only damaging your relationship when you’re not speaking your mind up. To make things worse, women are taught to give themselves up to save a relationship. Never be passive or quiet, as it will only backlash later on. Speak truthfully and openly, don’t be afraid to communicate, and you’ll build a foundation for a healthy relationship in no time.
Don’t Give In Too Much of Yourself
Many women lose themselves in a relationship and end up being codependent on their partner. Don’t let that happen to you. All you have to do is hold onto your hobbies and interests and spend time with your friends as you usually would outside of a relationship. Don’t sacrifice something you love for someone you love, as that will only make you hate them eventually.
Trust the Gut Feeling
Did you ever have one of those moments in your life where you thought that listening to your gut feeling in the past would’ve been detrimental to your well-being? If so, why don’t you listen to it when it comes to relationships? Many women forget to trust their instincts when it comes to choosing partners because of the so-called ‘pink glasses’ and idolization. Don’t you think someone is right for you, but they’re acting nice and affectionate? Ditch them, move on, and find a partner whom you trust with your gut. Without trusting your instincts, you can easily end up being with a narcissist who will suck the soul out of you.
Stand Your Ground
You mustn’t let anyone walk over you, especially in a relationship. Pleasing someone because it’s polite or giving up fighting in conflicts will only result in a toxic relationship, which you don’t want to end up in. If someone is pressuring you to sleep with them, but you don’t want to, simply don’t. Please yourself first, and then your partner.
Develop a Team Vibe
Most relationships fail over time because the two partners aren’t working as one, as a team. Developing a team concept in your relationship is crucial if you want to have a healthy relationship down the road. Both of you need to be working towards the same goal and toward achieving the same plans. This will lead to both of you being fulfilled and happy.
Don’t Be Clingy
Do you hate it when someone keeps sending you messages all day long to check on you? Hate it when someone can’t do anything on their own without you? If so, your potential partner will hate it if you act that way. You don’t want to be a needy girlfriend who will bug her man all day long. Not only will you push away the man you’re with if you become clingy, but you will also attract the people who are looking for someone clingy. These people will use your dependence on them to assert power over you and use you. So, don’t send him a million texts a day, don’t hit him up when he’s at work, rather wait for you two to meet up and then have a heart-to-heart conversation.
Allow Your Man to Take the Lead
Men love when they’re in charge, and that’s completely normal. Allowing your man to take the lead in certain situations isn’t bad; quite contrary, it can be very healthy for your relationship. It’s important to let your man feel in charge and show that he’s strong. This way, you’ll help him fulfill his gender role and make him feel like he’s needed. If you’re an independent woman, you should let him pay for your dinner, allow him to help you when you need it, listen to his input about your decisions, etc. These are all the little things that make a man feel good about himself when he’s in a relationship.
Have Your Space
Having your space is crucial in any relationship, not only in romantic relationships. Your man needs to provide you with enough space so you can work on yourself as much as you want. Being with someone doesn’t mean that you should be with that person 24/7. Don’t forget about your friends and family.
Work on Yourself
Working on themselves is something a lot of women seem to forget when they enter a relationship. To create a healthy bond with someone, you need to put your hobbies, interests, friends, and, most importantly, family first place. Without living a fulfilling life, there’s no way of being in a healthy relationship. At the end of the day, you want to be with someone who will push you to be better, someone who will try to make you inspired to work on yourself. My best advice on this is to check whether your partner will help you achieve your dreams at the beginning of your relationship. Pick up a new hobby, work on it, and see whether your man is trying to be helpful. If they keep telling you that you’re not spending enough time with them, it’s time to move on.
Learn When To Move On
Last but not least, it’s important to learn when to move on in relationships. You have to keep in mind that not every man you meet will be the one. Treat every date as being a potential ‘the one,’ but try to see their flaws and see whether they’re actually meant for you. You need to learn to recognize the signs that tell you when a person is not for you. Some of the queues for this can be your:
- Incapability to love yourself when you are with your partner
- Drastically different ideas about life, work, relationships, kids, etc.
- Inability to commit to the person because they lack something
- Inability to have a good time when the two of you meet
Relationships come and go, and they’ve never really a failure. Even if you spend a lot of time with someone who is wrong for you, this doesn’t mean that you’ve wasted your time. Treat it as a lesson and grow from it, learn from it, and eventually, you’ll find the man of your dreams.